Personal Ads

Admin · Site Admin

I am not trying to run a dating site, but would you think it will be a good idea to have personal Ads on this site?
After all, you can meet somebody special or just a Pen-Pal friend here. Cocaine, Crack Cocaine broke so many families, so maybe, just maybe this site will help you to create a new, drug free family.

Admin · Site Admin

Not sure- it's my own vote, so help me here. Rolling Eyes

frankthetank · Resident

As a recovering crack addict myself, I think It's a great idea. Because many of us "addicts" had to break ties to our old friends, or don"t have family anymore. So I think it"s great because we can not only make new"Clean" friends, But we may be able to offer some Support or suggestions to another recovering addict regardless of length of clean-time. Just my opinion![/img][/url]

freedomisprecious · Forum Veteran

personally, i would choose not to have a "personal ad" on a site like so. i am here to recovery and share, to write and express, to feel and learn, to know and hope. not to find personalities that i know are already like my own, to get involved with. for me that would be (especially in beginning of recovery) to take the focus off of myself, and put the addicts ways back into the life of an addict, by taking those feelings and resulting them to another person, instead of being guided by strength and hope, for me that would be disrupting the learning process of who we want to become from what our addiction has taught us. but as i have seen times over again on this site, others are looking for friendships, and others to talk to on a more personal basis than a forum has to offer. so maybe for those who desire, it would be a good idea. but i know MY "personal ad" can only be seen through me as a person after my personal recovery level has kept the focus on me and only helping others for some time before anything else i could be available for,and not by an ad on some cocaine help site. im here to get better, not worse. but only all in my opinion. others seem to desire the chatting it out, where me, i can write and type all day and get what i need from it.also if i ran a site for addicts who are searching for answers, i would not want to hold the responsibility "persay" of any of the possible results that could derive from having a personal ad page. say a young girl like myself decided to come here for help and hope, put up a personal ad because i am a newly recovering addict and of course i am lonely...then i started to chat on a constant basis with another addict and because i am an addict decided that was my new way out of myself...and put all my energy and focus into this new guy i met online who thinks, feels and acts the same way i do...and then one day we decide to meet, and because i have spent so much time in my new recovery finding all the right/wrong answers in a new relationship that i have made no real progress in living with the pain of the past...that i have no real stable say so when i meet him and we end up going out and being faced with a situation i was not yet prepared to say no to. then what?? i would definately check into the liability on that if i was the controller of a cocaine help site. but maybe because i am an addict i am just reading WAAAAAAAY to far into this poll!! lol. but that is how i feel, and im sticking to it. thanks for the site admin, its a real blessing to me.

Guest · Newbie

I would hate to see this site become run over with personal ads, which I feel would take away from the value of what may have been intended here. When I look at this site now I see a place where people can come that are hungry for information regarding addiction. The sight serves both the addicted and those suffering the very personal pain of loving, or caring for someone with addiction. We are all vunerable and somewhat desperate and eager to reach out to anyone that will listen. I would like to see this site stay focused on drug addiction and recovery. I feel if people are destined to meet through corresponding on this site it will happen. I like the idea of us all being able to help, inspire and support each other here without the pressures of wondering if there are intentions of being here for another purpose. There is a lot of healing that must take place when dealing with an addiction regardless which end you fall on ( the recovery/addiction side, or the family, friends or loved ones of an addict). I would hate to see the forums here become a go between for personal relationships. Perhaps directing interested readers to a seperate site that they can post personal ads would be more desirable.
I am here to hopefully learn how to salvage the relationships I already have and don't want to give up on. This is just my personal opinion and I respect the needs of everyone here. Thank you for allowing me to voice my opinion.
Respectfully ~ pause4poetry/Michelle

Sassy8722 · Tenant

I am not sure about the persoanl ads, but what someone said about wanting to stay away from people who have their personality I think is not the right way to think. Of course that is just my opinion, but I wanted to share it. One peice of advice I found when looking up addiction, is, when you are feeling really down and on the edge is this:

Make a phone call to a recovering individual. The common mistake is to avoid doing this for any number of reasons. The very act of reaching out is the key to recovery.

The personal ads may help you connect with that one person who you can relate to most. That may end up being the one person you can call when you are freaking out and don't know what to do. The personal ads may not be a bad idea, of course you can make it a bad thing, but that can happen with most anything nowadays. If it is abused, maybe it should be removed, but I say it's worth a shot.