hello, i am new to this board, i have a boyfriend that has been into drugs for a while. last year in march he O.D and the docs said he had perks, coke, alcohol, weed and morphine in his system, and he denies it except the perks and weed, well he almost died i found him like that and it was crazy ididnt know what to do. i called the ambulance and they were very rude when i told them i think he took some pills. we have 4 kids together been almost 10yrs together but we do not live together. he promised to stop the pills and i think he did for a month or so. now i find out his sniffing coke. i kinda had the feeling but he denies it and says he would NEVER touch it. the symptoms i see r night sweats (day sweats cuz he dont sleep at night) sometime sleep for more then a day, bloody nasal discharge while sleeping, shaking in sleep, sniffing all the time, always leaving saying hes going to the store, and we dont have sex very much.
i found it 3 times once i dumped it and he didnt care so i thought he wasnt doing it. but he lives with his friend and he cought him and he said o this is calcium powder for the fish little did he know he had it all over his nose.
i dont do any drugs so i dont know muuch about any of this, if any one can help me it would be much appreciated
thanks for reading and sorry its so long
Sounds like it could be...especially given the blood toxicology....and symptoms you are describing. I've seen them all in my b/f. can you see his jugular vein when he sleeps? My b/f's looked like it would jump right out of his throat if it weren't for the skin after heavy use.
Keep reading there's a lot of information and support here. Good luck. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Alot of what you describe sounds like it. All the facts are there. The toxicology report is the biggest indicator that he was using, and the symptoms you see are indicators he still is. Now some questions to consider.
What is your next step if you confront him and he admits it?
What is your next step if you confront him and he doesn't?
All I can tell you is that if he continues using it will consume him and you don't want yourself or your kids to be around that - its your duty to protect yourself and your kids first. Addicts find it easy to lie - when I use I have no sense of consequence I could look people right in the eye and lie with ease - I am not proud of that - its just a fact. Lots of people say they want help but are just going with it to get people off there backs. Lots also do recover though - the point is you don't know which one he'll be so keep your eyes open.
thank u very much. well i keep asking and i keep getting the same answers no i am not. i dont beleive him, i really dont know what to do, i wanna leave him but i just cant, he gets so mad when i make comments like a sniff my nose like him and tell him to get some more. thats another thing all of a sudden he has sinus problems can we have been together almost 10yrs and now he has sinus problems? 2 weeks went by now and he hasnt had any bloody boogers in his nose when he sleeps could this mean hes stopping?? i am 27 yrs old and NEVER touched any drugs in my life i know nothing about any of it but some of the slang they use. but i do read of the stuff on the net. is coke easy to stop doing, i hear its really hard or is that only if u smoke it>
Making comments will not help your situation. Blood toxicology doesn't lie. Addicts do. Cocaine is hard to get off of. It doesn't matter how you take it. It is highly addictive and very hard to give up. Read what the addicts on this site have to say about it.
Do yourself and your kids a favor and take care of you first. He will only change and stop when he is ready to. Nothing you can do except to encourage him to do so, and hold him accountable by letting the consequences of his drug use happen. If that means he loses you...that's what it means.
You will be OK. I know it is hard to give him up. It's hard to let someone you love go...and it will take time to heal...but you have to look out for yourself. If you don't his issues will consume you. Drug use kills. His drug use will kill your energy and your spirit. It breaks your heart. You have to wake up. You are the only one that can change your life and he is the only one that can change his. If you want it and need it bad enough, you will let go....because it is time to let go.
As long as you hold on, do it with your eyes open. Read. Know what you are you choosing to deal with. Know what your kids are dealing with. Don't put them through it. Your boyfriend's choices and behavior impact your kids. Hopefully a deterrent. You have to make the hard choices for them. You have to help them make good choices. You can be a role model and not allow the cocaine to further damage you or your kids.
Thoughts and prayers are with you. G0D knows it is not easy, but you have the strength within to do the right thing for you and your family.
Coke is hard to give up whether you are snorting, smoking or injecting it. Whether its hard to give up isn't really the point anyway - using is wrong - period. Why is a person using and what will it take to make them stop, also why hang around once its proven unless serious effort is put into recovery.
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