THANK YOU!!!

Crystina · Newbie

Nothing made sense. I gave the relationship my all and could not understand the treatment I received in return from someone who was supposed to love me. I just wanted to thank each and every one of you who have shared your stories on this website. I finally have peace of mind. I FINALLY UNDERSTAND. It makes SO MUCH sense that I cannot believe that I didn't see it... but as my ex says, I was naive. Part of me wishes he would have been honest with me about what was happening, but then I read the stories and realize that perhaps I was spared an even more painful nightmare than the one I lived through. I deserve a man who will be honest with me and love is not enough to build a healthy relationship. I need and deserve a healthy partner, and I need to get over this depression so I can be healthy for him in return. Right now the truth is a comfort to me in dealing with this loss so that I can regain my bearings and move on. Thank you sooooooo much.

Asadwife · Resident

Crystina-

I feel your pain and have walked in the same shoes myself. I admire your strength and your clarity. I wish you all of the luck in the world to forge ahead and make the best decisions you can make for you. You are right---you do deserve honesty, love, and a healthy relationship. You will find none of those with an addict. Keep reading here, find a support system that works for you, and look inside yourself to get out of your depression. Life is on the other side.

Kelly

Crystina · Newbie

Thanks, Kelly. You give good advice! I've been going to a domestic violence support group at church and have spent a lot of time in prayer asking WHY a person who loved me so much would be so mentally abusive and HOW he could snap and nearly take my life or attack my career as he did. Then I told my story to a person who truly knew about cocaine. I'd always thought it was another woman, but my friend said to me, "Whether or not he was f-->ing, he wasn't cheating on you with no girl... he was cheating on you with cocaine." (I had doubted my boyfriend on so many other issues, but it had never occurred to me to doubt him when he talked about being clean from cocaine... even though I knew he had a history with it. How dumb could I be? I honestly thought he was lying and acting so weird to cover up affairs with other women.) I started reading this forum and couldn't believe what I was seeing. Soooo many other people experiencing EXACTLY what I'd gone through. My friend was right, I had been dating a CURRENT addict... and he was too big a coward to tell me the truth about it. I think that is the part that hurts me the most. Now I am just looking forward, setting new goals and trying to be at peace with G o d's plan for my life.