I have a question. I will be turning 21 on August 7 and would like some ideas on how to celebrate wisely. My boyfriend is a recovering coke addict, so I am afraid of going out and celebrating in the usual way someone would celebrate their 21st, so some ideas would be nice. Thanks.
Well, having had the good fortune of dating a few leos in the past,
i have found as long as i kept them as the center of attention, in charge and treated their birthday like a national holiday all was fine.
Kidding aside, i think it wise for you to take precaution,, i have used many important occassions to disappear,, the addict knows the additional shame it will inflict by missing a big event, keeps me out a lot longer, unwilling to face up to the consequences of a monumental f-up...
past abscences include, my own surprise birthday party, my parents anniversary, and most recently my sisters fourth of july barbeque...
i might recommend taking a short trip, cabin b&b etc... i think, in my case, the bigger the expectation on my part,,,the more likely i was to disappear, --- i am assuming his finances are still in disarray since he is still new to recovery, so perhaps lessening the importance of a milestone birthday on him might not be a bad idea
reading your past posts, i am assuming that you birthday wish, if granted, months ago, would of been, what you have today....a boyfriend sober and present.
I just wanted to say that I think it is great that you are thinking ahead as far as Stanley's recovery process. He is lucky to have such a positive influence in his corner !!! I hope whatever you do that you will enjoy it to the fullest.
_________________ Positives create better results then Negatives
And Bill, you are SO SO SO right. I think for the past three years that has been what I asked for for my birthdays, for him to stay sober for once, and not only did I not get that but also got nothing period. I am just so thankful to have finally got it I don't even know what to do with myself. Thanks for the early Happy Birthday too! ~
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Thanks.
