So I just wanted to give you an update. Joe my bf has left today. This morning we didn't have a fight, everything was okay. He was calling me all morning telling me that he loves me and he misses until around 11ham i called him and he told me that he was taking a shower and that he would call me in a few minutes. Thats was the last i heard
I tryed calling him since 12h15 and no answer. I had a bad feeling about something. So i left work at 2h00 and came home and found exactly what i thought, he had packed up and left. He took all his stuff. I called his mom and she told me she had no idea where he was and hung up on me. I called his sister and she told me nothing.
5 minutes later my phone rang and it was him. He told me that he needed to leave for him and take care of him. He said that he loves me with all his heart and that he had to prove that to me. He said that he will be back in my life but he needs to work on him first. He has to do it his way. Anyway, i told him this is the second time he leaves out of the blue for no reason or explanations, you don't do that. I guess he has been running away from his problems all his life why would it change now. He said that he loves me very much and that he will prove it. Thats how the conversation ended.
Well I don't know much about your situation but can tell you that time tells everything. If he is running away from his problems then what he said about taking care of himself and proving his love for you is an excuse. You will find out in time. If he is trying to change or trying to get away from those who have tried to help him quit.
I will pray for your situation as it seems like fixing himself on his own without the help of others seems to lack something vital.On the other hand It took me to step aside from the concern of others to be able to look inside and see how much I really loved them and wanted to change. didn't want to loose those who mattered most. I lived in a shelter for a month to get a feel for where this drug life leads. I didn't talk to family for almost a month. I returned with new motivation and less dependancy on them to have to deal with the problems I brought.
Whatever the case I hope you find some peace of mind and stregnth. Thing is when people run away it causes more worries to those that love the person and want to help.I hope things will work out.
Do yourself a favor, continue to plan you the trip to your sister's.
Don't let this change what it is you need to do for yourself. Time will tell if he is serious, but he could just be feeling he is losoing his grip on you and is going to do whatever he can to change your new healthy way of thinking ....
Remember, this trip is about YOU, not him ...
Just my thoughts ....
Much Love,
Michelle
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Thanks everyone, I think that i will still keep my mind on my trip. I know that its hard to keep up with everything going on. I never expected it to happen this way. Anyway, its don't know how to feel.
I called my therapist right away but unfortunately he couldn't see me today only on monday, so he told me not to be alone and stay around people that i care about and love. You guys are one of them.
One...Just goes to show, he DID have somewhere to go
Two...If ya ask me, he's shacking up with someone who uses,
probably a broad, who'll give him no gruff about using.
I think that he went to his mom because when i got home the last number on redial was his moms house and she told me she didn't know where he was and then he called me 5 mins later.
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I moved out 3 weeks after moving in w/ Jacob's father
(before having Jacob)
because I couldn't stand it anymore.
I think that he knew i was starting to lose it. Bills were coming in and i couldn't make ends meet anymore and i was crying on monday.
Yes Nikki,Lynns right it is for the best.It is ok to greave now for your lost and than go on with a fresh start.I think it is hard to end any relationship if you loved and cared for the person as you did, no matter if it is one you can no longer indure.Just know we are all here to support you and love you through this.
Hugs diane
One...Just goes to show, he DID have somewhere to go
Two...If ya ask me, he's shacking up with someone who uses,
probably a broad, who'll give him no gruff about using.
I think that he went to his mom because when i got home the last number on redial was his moms house and she told me she didn't know where he was and then he called me 5 mins later.
Geez, it's true when they say,
The apple doesn't fall far from the tree
Both my Mother & Father refused to lie for me on the phone.
I can remember back when I was about 17,
I had been at my job for about a year....
I slept right through a 9-3 shift, having woke up at about 3:30
Being in a stupor, I run downstairs and ask my mom,
thinking I was disheveled and mistaken about having to work..
Mom, did work call here at all?
YES...A couple times..
Until I told the guy NOT to call anymore.
WHAT?!?!
WHY DIDN'T YOU WAKE ME UP???
Because that's your responsibility
and you know how you get if I wake you up.
Yea mom, when ya wake me up cause Mary's on the phone
I don't care,
that's your responsibility to get up for work, not mine
Well, what did he say to you?
He asked for you and said you were due at work at 9...
I told him you were sleeping...He asked me to wake you up..
I told him no...YOU come here and wake her up, I'm not going to...
After calling a second time,
I told him you were still sleeping and not to call anymore.
#!@%$#*&
My father...I'd tell him,...not ask
Dad, answer the phone and tell him(john)I'm not here.
No Lynn Therese, I'm not lying for you.
You answer the phone and tell him you don't want to talk.
Dad..you know that psycho will keep calling...
Yea...I KNOW...unplug the phone...
Lynn Therese...
what do you do to these men???
Where do you find these guys??
ROFLMFAO
nikki wrote:
keepitreal wrote:
I moved out 3 weeks after moving in w/ Jacob's father
(before having Jacob)
because I couldn't stand it anymore.
I think that he knew i was starting to lose it. Bills were coming in and i couldn't make ends meet anymore and i was crying on monday.
Right, he didn't nor does, want to deal with it.
Believe me you...This is far from over
I'd be shocked, If you even took your sister up on her offer.
As a matter of fact...You can take this to the bank...
I'll give you $500 if you do...You have my word!
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As a matter of fact...You can take this to the bank...
I'll give you $500 if you do...You have my word!
nikki, i hate to discredit lynn's good word and intentions. however, i fail to see how she could keep her word as she owes the bank huge for all those international long distance, obsene phonecalls she was making to me.
sorry lynn
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yes I would like to know your thoughs on this him and my trip to australia from either you or lynn, please be gentle, i am a little sensitive right now.
As a matter of fact...You can take this to the bank...
I'll give you $500 if you do...You have my word!
nikki, i hate to discredit lynn's good word and intentions. however, i fail to see how she could keep her word as she owes the bank huge for all those international long distance, obsene phonecalls she was making to me.
sorry lynn
LOL...Ya right, the bank of AT&T...
w/i 2 weeks, I'll be slightly over $8000 richer...
The *bank* will get their money....
and so will Nikki if she shows me some plane tickets
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