Well I feel like writing a bit this morning about whats been going on with me lately.I ended up in the hospital about a week ago,thought i was having a heart attack,well it turns out my heart and lungs were fine.The doctor says its stress.I am suppose to get rid of the stress in my life,I dont know how he expects me to do this when I suffer from a stress related condition.I find that the older I get the more things bother me.Things dont roll off my shoulders as easy any more.He wants me to go too councelling and find ways to deal with the stress in my life.I know that I should have gone to councelling years ago there are too many things that i have just pushed under the rug in hopes they would go away.I will not bore you with the details or go into the poor me act.Most of these things are of my own doing as I believe that life is what you make it.I guess the fact that my mother died of a heart attact at the age of 49 has been bothering me as I turn 50 here in a couple of months,maybe that is what sent me running to the hospital as soon as I got a little chest pain.I know my sister breathed a sign of relief when she hit her 50th birthday as all of moms side of the family died young.We can only hope that we got dads genes as he is 81 and still chasing skirts lol.Anyways I have been trying to figure out ways to deal with my stress and would like to have your ideas and opinons on this topic.
Thanks Diane
Hugs everyone
Here are a few things I have been learning to do and I have seen that I can control my feelings of stress a bit more.
1. Try to make time in your day to have quiet time, no television, music, i-pod, computer, phone, and whatever electronics that are noisy so that you can minimize noise and be able to quiet your mind.
2. Use meditation, read articles or books that are inspiring or something you enjoy, take a relaxing bath or shower. Cut back on coffee and caffeine.
3. When you have down time you are able to listen to what your emotional or physical needs are and give yourself time to concentrate without all the noise of life.
4. Start checking and keeping records of your cholesterol levels, blood pressure, blood sugar, body mass index, weight and diet.
5. Work on your health and body those are the two best ways to feel good is by eating the right foods and exercise.
6. Identify your boiling points. What stresses you out and then recognize the triggers start practicing calm responses.
7 learn how to breathe deeply.
I am learning self hypnosis where you can use your imagination to
Place yourself anywhere and relax.
I thought I would write down the signs of a heart attaché in case others didn’t know. Heart disease runs in my family too. My cousin was 32 when he had his first heart attach and it wasn’t related to any type of drugs. Heart problems can be hereditary.
* Some heart attaches are sudden but usually first there is signs
Signs
Chest discomfort usually in the center of chest that last more than a few minutes or goes away and comes back. It can feel like uncomfortable pressure, squeezing, fullness or pain.
Pain or discomfort in one or both arms, the back, neck, jaw or stomach
Shortness of breath
Sweating
Nausea
Lightheadedness
Look for certain signs that might be of concern to bring up with your doctor if you have had unusual fatigue and sleeplessness.
Don’t ever fail to call 911 if you or your loves one have those symptoms.
oh yeah last but not least as in my case quit smoking!!!!!!!!!
Stress as in, you worry too much about things you have no control over,
or worry about things that could happen, though they haven't or may never.
A worry wart, waiting for the sky to fall...stress from worrying
or..Stress as in, You get so f-ing irritated with the bullsh!t or lack of consideration
that people stress you out because, what they do or don't do, is so IRRITATING
(the *censored "Female Dog" w/ her trailer, why can't anyone put the toilet seat down,
there's the hamper, why is the sh!t on the floor,
why can't anyone else pick up the phone..why is it always me doing the calling,
rise your d#mn plate off, is that too much to ask...that kinda stuff)
Love You,
Lynn
_________________ If you can not stand for something, you will fall for everything
Breathe a sigh of relief that your heart and lungs checked out ok ...That's good news ! My Dad died from heart problems in 1992, he was still young ..., I only have 1 Aunt remaining from my Dad's side of the family ... and she is doing well ...
Stress and depression can create physical symptoms... counseling may help if there are things you need to work through to bring your stress levels down ... also moderate exercise and breathing techniques can help in relieving stress. Setting aside time each day specifically to relax and enjoy time doing something that you like to do can also help .... Regular health check ups to be sure that you doing well may also relieve some of the worries that concern you about your families medical history ....
Be good to yourself .... and take care ...
Much Love,
Michelle
_________________ Positives create better results then Negatives
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1. Try to make time in your day to have quiet time, no television, music, i-pod, computer, phone, and whatever electronics that are noisy so that you can minimize noise and be able to quiet your mind
I do this alot as again the older i get the more i need quiet in the house i use my mornings as a quiet time with no sound in the house although this is hard to do when hubby is home he has tv or radio going first thing when he gets up.As for the health thing I try to go to the dr often to get blood checked as I have scleroderma.These are all good ideas and I will give them a try was also thinking of taking a beginner yoga class.Thanks unforgiven
Lynn Again you know me too well,this is exactly it.I am a worry wart.I let the little things get to me.As for the bi-ch and the trailor,she can shuff it up her *censored ( | ).Like my hubby says he would reather buy something else than give her the satisfaction of thinking she gave us it.
Michelle It is a concern when one side your family all died young,there is no one left on my moms side.I know i got to excerise more I justify this by telling myself i work thats enough excerise lol,i know its not the same thing though.Thanks everyone for the tips
hugs Diane
Diane-I'm glad everything checked out ok with the doctor. Remember that women don't normally will not have chest pain with a heart attack, usually heaviness, like an elephant sitting on your chest kind of thing.
Hate to be the one to bring this up, but are you menopausal? Have you had any bloodwork to check your hormone levels? Having been thru menopause from a hyserectomy I can tell you that at times I thought I was going absolutely insane, the smallest things would cause me to really lose it, everything would bother me, just something to consider.
Yoga does work, very well. Staying in a position for a certain amount of time requires a lot of concentration which pushes other thoughts OUT of your brain and makes you focus on yourself and holding your pose. It is a great exercise for stress & is not as physically exhausting as cardio exercises. Yoga is a great way to end your evening & start your day.
Maybe on days you don't work you can get in some cardio, outside exercise is best, and really get some good endorphins going in your brain.
Stress is hard to get rid of, worrying is hard to stop doing, but you owe it to yourself to try to help yourself. Get in some laughter as much as you can. Go back & read some of Bill's posts!
Take care.
Lucy
usually heaviness, like an elephant sitting on your chest kind of thing.
hey lucy,
what if
you have this heavy feeling
on your chest, but
you think it's a hippopotamus
and not an elephant.
would that still indicate a heart attack? :razz
diane,
that's not cool. i can totally relate to that kind of pain brought on by stress.
that sounds like good advice from everyone above. i should try and practise that my self.
steve writes:
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Cut back on coffee and caffeine.
again, solid advice, i drink too much coffee myself. also in terms of cutting back, diane, and this could be a shot in the dark, but you don't happen by chance to smoke crack cocaine, do you, because i've heard that this also can be quite stressful.
i do hope you feel better. i'm almost thinking of making it a daily routine to post something funny on this
thread to make sure you get your dose of laughter everyday.
Dear Lucy,Lol I dont think its that because I had everything removed at 33 and it would be a little late to be going through the change.Thanks for the tip on the yoga I am for sure going to try it ive been wanting to for a year now.Good idea about reading Bills posts I was thinking about putting in a request for him and Lynn to play their games on my thread so I can start my day laughing.
Bill I dont think its the coffee I have to cut back on I only drink about a cup a day if that and most times its decalf,BUT I LOVE MY CHOCLATE,It comforts me when im down and is almost as good as sex.
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diane, and this could be a shot in the dark, but you don't happen by chance to smoke crack cocaine, do you, because i've heard that this also can be quite stressful.
You are too funny,why dint I think of this before ,of course this has to be it.I know that this is my biggest stress factor right now trying to stay clean and kicking myself in the *censored ( | ) when I fall.If only I had a magic wand,with one wave Diane no more crack head.Well it dont work that way so I have to do things the hard way and discouver the answer for myself.I would love to have a dose of your humor on my thread everyday so im holding you to it and you better come up with some good ones and call on lynn to add to it because I think you too make a funny act.
Hugs to you both
Diane
It sounds like your racing mind will not give you any room to dismiss
the negatives. I have that problem too, especially at night, when i should
be counting sheep, i am counting the number of swinging axes over my head.
I have found, for me, that a physcial activity is a better way to release then trying to do the impossible,quiet the mind by not residing in the future or the past, by staying present. I guess meditation is something that i will have to work up to, because the only way for me to be totally "present" is to drop a boulder on my foot.
I have recently been seeing a lot of things pop up as it relates to health wellness, mentally and otherwise and the relationship to water,,, makes sense since we are mostly composed of it.....
Dr. Emoto has studied water molecules and how they change shape when certain musical pieces are played.
I saw the book recently "Water Crystal Healing: Music and Images to Restore Your Well-Being", it comes with two dvd's. http://search.barnesandnoble.com/bookse ... &itm=3 i have been meaning to buy it, but honestly, I have traded the last two barnes and noble gift cards for crack over the last couple of months.
I know, too easy... but i know how i cannot listen to anything but talk radio when i am depressed, coming off a binge, and how i crave music when sobriety and mood elevate me.
I know music is a personal thing, and his is a general approach, but whether it is Tchaikovsky, Mozart or Nugent it might be worth attempting to line up your cells in a less stressful formation by just putting on some headphones and pushing play.
Exactly, Bill40 me too I love music sometimes it has a calming effect on me good therapy advice too much quietness is scary. I begin to think someone is watching me.......... just certain times I wish not to hear electronics.
A walk in the park, nature, running water foutains, if you do get into to yoga it is benifitial you will have better sex as far as mobility goes. Jogging,running things that get your heart pumping are good for the heart but always check with your doctor before attempting to start any exercise program even yoga.We have all hear this before get a physical done and what not. Take vitamins load up on water, drink it up like your well was to run dry.
What is it to quiet the mind you let go of worries, thoughts, and there is different ways like completely stop your brain from thinking (takes work) or where you meditate on good thoughts Lord, rainbows ect;
I can get into Chocolate too that is a passionate substance that does love me back it has a way to lift up a person's spirits who has lowered thier dompamine levals with crack.
Surgar addicts I am one that is me. What happens though is the sudden drop in blood surgar levals once its gone the feelings of energy and goodness dissapear. chocolate in moderation it can be good for you. See if you can find surgar free kind though.
I noticed I was drinking too much moutain dew and guess what when I stopped I had headaches and mental fog for a few days therefore showing it's further presense that made me want to go out and buy some more Moutain dew.
I felt better once I stoped so much surgar had me running into problems healthwise. I couldn't sleep at night and it gets expensive when you keep running to 7-11 for another 2 litter at 2 dollars a bottle x three to four a day. It caused me stress finantially and my body hated it when my mind said I loved it.
Dear bill40 It is so good to see you back been wondering about you.I do love music and liston to it quit a bit as a pick me up.Now unforgiven has really got me wanting to try that yoga thing because of the better sex lol.This week has been a funny one as my father informed me on the ph that he is planning on getting married again.The man gets more action than I do and hes 81 go figure.He has only been a widow since july but my hubby says its not like he has 5 years to court her hes got to grab what he can when he can.I have to agree with this and as long as the man is happy who am i to object.Its never too late for love,it does my heart good to here him talking like a teenager in love.He keeps me laughing Im beginning to wonder if hes related to flaggin lol.
Anyways it is good to see you back and thanks for the tips bill and unforgiven.Bill if you buy that book let me know how it is and I might break down and get a copy.
Hugs Diane
This week has been a funny one as my father informed me on the ph that he is planning on getting married again.The man gets more action than I do and hes 81 go figure.He has only been a widow since july but my hubby says its not like he has 5 years to court her hes got to grab what he can when he can.I have to agree with this and as long as the man is happy who am i to object.Its never too late for love,it does my heart good to here him talking like a teenager in love.
LOL...I'm so glad you shared your fathers news
Listen...My grammie(my dads mother)
has gotten married twice w/i the last 5 years.
When my father told me..Your gram got married...
I was like...what??? Got married
So, I called my gram up....
Gram...Dad said you got married...
I did Lynn Therese...
Why
(laughing)Cause grammie doesn't like to go to bed alone
(cracking up laughing)Come on Gram...
It's not like you have sex anymore...
Why do you think that...cause grammies old?
Well..yea...your no spring chick anymore...
Listen Lynn Therese....
I may not be a spring chick anymore
but....I'm old...not dead(laughing)
So, what are you saying gram...You can still have sex?
No...I'm saying I do still have sex because I can.
Ewwww, that's more information then I need to know gram
(laughing)You brought it up Lynn Therese
About a year after getting married,
she watched him have a heart attack and die.
She thinks he died of a broken heart...
A couple of years before she married Mike,
he had lost his wife of, like 56 years
Before they were married,
my gram put her house up for sale,
cause she was moving into Mikes house,
When he died, he left everything to his only son..
But, you know what...
About a week after he was buried, his son called my gram
she knew he would and didn't want to call him first
knowing when he was ready, he would call her
She knew she had to move...
he would likely just put the house up for sale
seeing how he already owned a house.
So, when he called,
my gram asked him how he was doing
and told him she had been waiting for him to call,
Knowing it might be an awkward situation for him,
and not wanting him to feel bad or funny,
She told him right away, she'd been looking at houses,
and if it would be alright with him,
if she could stay at the house until she found something.
(he knew she sold her house to move in w/ his father)
You know what he told her...told in my own words
from the info I remember my gram telling me...
Laverne..I don't need a house, I have one
and I'm well off so, I don't need the money.
When my mother passed away, I was so worried about dad..
He wasn't eating, he stopped working in his garden,
(which gram said was his favorite thing to do)
he wouldn't answer the phone when I called,
so I'd drive to the house to check on him,
not knowing if I'd find him dead or alive...
And, when I'd get to the house(he had a key)
I'd walk in and find dad, sitting in his favorite chair
holding a picture from when him and mom got married...crying...
He wouldn't sell the house and come live with us(he was married)
and he refused to have a care giver stay with him,
so me and my wife would come and check on him constantly
I knew it wasn't good for dad to stay secluded anymore,
so, after checking around, I had found the senior center
where you and my father met...and things started changing
He was eating better, would answer the phone and sounded good
he was driving himself to the senior center, and when spring came...
he started working in his garden again
The day he called me, to ask me how I'd feel
if he said he was getting married...I was shocked
I told him, as long as your happy dad, that's all that matters to me..
He wanted to make sure that I didn't think
he was replacing my mom and had forgotten about her.
I told him I knew that would never happen
and that mom would want him to be happy too.
My dad never got over my moms death, I know
but, from the time you stepped in his life,
you made my dad smile again and helped him to carry on,
you gave him a reason to live instead of waiting to die...
I know my dad would want you to have the house,
I'd like you to have the house too and everything in it
all I want are the things of sentimental value to me,
How bout those apples, huh..
After Mike died, she met Rudy at the senior center
When they got married, he moved in with my gram
He had lost his wife recently then,
and didn't want to stay in his house because of all the memories
I never met Mike but Rudy's real cool...
I got that phone call the second time around.
(ring ring, caller ID=grammie)
Hi grammie...
Hi Lynn Therese...Is Stever there(my dad)
Yea, he's in the bathroom
Well, grammie just called to let yous know I got married...
What...again..hold on
(yelling out)Daaaaad...grams on the phone,
I'll be out in a minute...
So, we go back to talking,
I'm asking what his name is and stuff,
So, when my dad comes into the kitchen,
I tell her, here's dad, hold on,
before I give him the phone I tell him...
gram got married again...and he starts chuckling...
So, what does he say to me as he's taking the phone...
Maybe you can ask her what her secret is
Real funny dad...reeeeal funny
I'm never getting married dad..
I'm staying with you forever...
Yea...that's what I'm afraid of
Hope ya enjoyed that...
That's not what I intended to post,
I was coming back to comment on Bill40's post,
but, I couldn't resist after reading your latest post.
Anyhoo...
bill40 wrote:
I have found, for me, that a physcial activity is a better way to release then trying to do the impossible,quiet the mind by not residing in the future or the past, by staying present.
I couldn't agree more..
While there are times I enjoy peace and quiet,
it is usually when I'm content and nothing is bothering me.
Staying active helps calm me down when something is bugging me
When I used to have a car and something was bothering me,
I would head Downtown and drive along the Lakefront,
Being Downtown at night was so relaxing for me.
Just driving and driving and driving
with the radio cranked up, was like therapy to me
Yea...I remember those days....
An example of something I would do now,
if something was really bugging me, and being that
it's too cold to walk it off or shoot hoops in the alley
I would tackle my junk drawers!
I've sooooo been putting it off...
and that would definitely keep me busy.
..guess I'm waiting til I'm stressed
Keep on keeping my friend!
Much Love & Strength,
Lynn
_________________ If you can not stand for something, you will fall for everything
and the relationship to water,,, makes sense since we are mostly composed of it.....
hey bill,
i'll post this for you. wrote it several years back.
I AM WATER
Bodily composition
Being mostly water
Corresponds rhythmically
With purest energy
The calm & rage
Of oceans' play
Unleashing, perhaps
That subdued tranquillity
Which invites melancholy;
I am water (removed & homesick)
_________________ I can embrace myself, hold my own hand, love me - but, I can't gaze into my own eyes and feel my own soul lift me up.
Dear Lynn,
Thanks for sharing your grams story with me and I dont dought that she was having sex as dad also informed my brother of that little bit of infoe.Dad Please your 81,dont you know that.I am happy hes happy as I had no dought that he would have another women in his life,he is still a very active person,who is very much capable of doing anythig,he|l he still shovels and hauls garbage away for "old people".I just laugh when he says im helping the old guy down the street,Hello dad what do you think you are.He has a young heart and I think thats what keeps him going.Oh by the way Lynn he has knowen this lady for 50 years and told me she has been chasing him for that long lol.The funny thing is I remember her from when I was a kid in nova scotia.My sister told me she did three way calling with them to save dad some money she had to put the phone down they were making her sick lol.Well anyways its heart warming to know that he is happy again,hes been so lonly crying off and on because of not having me or my sister there,because were the ones who give him alot of attention.He tied to talk me in to moving home to be close to him but thats not happening.Anyways thanks for that I love to here that kind of stuff.
Hugs Diane
Diane-Thanks for starting this thread, this is a good one, heartwarming.
I hope you are feeling better. Bad news tho-chocolate is full of caffeine which can cause heart palpitations which can make you nervous & stressed & bring on some chest discomfort.
Same as with Steve's Mountain Dew-just loaded with caffeine.
As hard as it was, years ago when I was fighting migraines, I gave up chocolate, it was a hard hard thing to give you, you know what I mean. But within a week I felt incredible, couldn't believe the physical difference in how much better I felt. Every now and again I'll eat a piece or 2 of chocolate and it kills my stomach. Of course I'd rather you eat chocolate any day before smoking crack so if it was that choice you know to eat it. But you know that.
I hope you are feeling better.
Lynn-Your stories and they way you share them always have a profound effect on me. Thank you for doing so. What a heartwarming story. Your gram sounds like a great lady.
Bill40-As always you have given me another topic to research. Thanks, you have the best info.
And funny Bill-liked the hippo comment, made me laugh as I'm sure it did Diane. Too tired to think of a comeback tonite, but I'll get you.
Thanks for the smiles.
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