Several weeks ago I began to see a change in my 20yr old daughter. Last night I smelled a suspicious odor. When she left I went into her room & found what I believe to be paraphernalia. I'm not certain what to make of what I found and don't want to falsely accuse her until I know what I have stumbled upon.
I took a picture of what I found. Can someone tell me if is drug related and perhaps what drug it might be related too.
It is epoxy tube, I would suspect that your daughter may used it as an inhalant. Evaporation from many household chem products can be used as an inhalant
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Several weeks ago I began to see a change in my 20yr old daughter
well, Mom -- you are the one who knows your daughter best; she is your daughter and you've known her her whole life. so, if you are seeing changes in her; especially changes that are out of character; out of the ordinary illogical -- then, there is a good chance that something is "up" with your daughter. is it drugs??? not necessarily, but maybe.
anyways, does it really matter if it is drugs or not? what i mean is; if you sense something to be going on with your daughter; then perhaps sitting down and asking her about what is going on in her life is a good starting point.... you may be surprised at the answers you get.
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What I need is to determine if she was using an illegial substance or inhalant. I don't want to accuse her unless I, know she was doing something.
you must already be pretty sure about what's going on for you to take the step of searching your daughter's room. open and honest communication is a good place to start; accusations usually don't go very far with anyone; especially an addict. whenever any person is accused of doing something, they automatically go on the defensive, and there is more space for dishonesty this way, imo.
my b/f; when we were first getting together told me he only smoked weed occasionally. i believed him; told him do that on your own time; not around me. ok, he respected that and so it went. i started hearing from others that he was smoking crack -- i went to him and asked him point blank and even told him who had told me this -- a guy who used to sell it to him. he denied it totally, and i believed him, because i wanted to. then i found his pipe in the sheets one day while changing the linen. i didn't know what it was, but figured it had something to do with drugs. so, i went around and asked people who knew; it was a crack pipe. that same evening, he desperately wanted me to leave for a while, because he wanted to get high, and i refused. i threw the pipe at him, and asked him why not use in front of me; why hide what he is doing from me; why the dishonesty? didn't i deserve the right to fully know what i was dealing with in order to decide whether i wanted to continue this relationship or not?
i guess what i am trying to say, is that your suspicions along with the fact that you have found some type of paraphernalia should be enough for you. what you need, is to let your daughter know, that no matter what, you love her and wll always be there for her, and if there is something going on with her; she needs to get control of it now, before it begins to control her. jumping down her throat with accusations won't get you any answers; only further deception. and that's what addicts are best at. deception,and manipulation in order to continue getting high.
wishing you and your daughter all the best hope everything works out for you both. you have come to a wonderful place for information and support.
peace, love and strength to you and yours.
What behavioral changes have you noticed? Attitude? Physical signs?
Joanne is right. Accusing won't help. Try talking to her....use open ended questions...they encourage her to share as opposed to yes/no. You will get more information that way. Leave your feelings and fear out of it. She needs to feel safe in communicating and trust that she can share it without being judged. Just listen. You don't have to respond right then and there. Be prepared. She may not want to talk to you about it...You are her mother....leave the door open, so she knows that you are willing to LISTEN if she does want to talk.
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