So what DID make you quit?

ziggysmom628 · Newbie

I am sitting here speechless!! I have been reading these posts and I just don't even need to post my own - I could have written most of the posts here. It is comforting.
We all know a lot of the things that don't work when we are trying to get our loved ones to quit crack - nagging, threatening etc.. For those of you who have successfully quit for awhile, what made you finally decide to quit? What helps in your recovery.

I feel like my DH is hopeless. Tonight I am less worried about the relationship stuff, but I find myself here worried about HIM. (he's in the middle of a looong bender). I haven't actully been afraid for his health before. I guess I have started really picturing *that* phone call that we all wait for - he's dead or he's in jail. (am I the only one who thinks about that? - my DH says that's so overdramatic) I am kind of freaking out. Sad

So back to the original question - out of curiosity - what was it that finally made you quit?

Jenni · Helping Hand I

Ziggysmom,

Search and read posts by Freedomisprecious. She describes her turning point quite poignantly.

You have good reason to be scared. I think until we educate ourselves we really don't contemplate all the risks.

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I haven't actully been afraid for his health before. I guess I have started really picturing *that* phone call that we all wait for - he's dead or he's in jail. (am I the only one who thinks about that? - my DH says that's so overdramatic) I am kind of freaking out.

I think most loved ones and addicts have had these thoughts...the difference is the non-addicted loved ones start worrying...our addicted loved ones tell themselves -lie to themselves about the reality so that they can continue to justify their using. My b/f had all kinds of physical problems bothering him....but none of them were related to the crack use. That's what he told himself.

Ultimately when he decided to get cleaned up for a while....I'm pretty sure reality had set in and he had come to realize that either doing what he was doing or hanging with the people he was hanging out with was going to kill him. That night before he turned around...he later told me...he would have killed himself if he had a bullet. That is what I had been a fraid of when I left him that night. He cleaned up for a while....then he started drinking again...that led to using again....then he went out of state for treatment. His physical problems caught up with him and treatment was delayed. He got out of treatment, but it wasn't too long before he was drinking again...then he got arrested...and spent a few months in jail. Then he got out on bail....drinking again? Using? I don't know.

I have friends that have been on meth...pretty hard to get off of too. What can I tell you....they also thought they were going to die.

Of course it doesn't have to come to that. Everyone's motivations are different. I think your real question is what will motivate your DH to quit. That is a question only he can answer.

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