I have been reading these threads one after another for almost two hours now. Very educational and emotionally helpful. Last night my mother call in tears telling me that my dad had been using cocaine for almost a year also that he spends 8+ hours on the internet looking at porn. Perfect timing seeing my daughter and I going back to visit next week for the first time this year. She said that he has asked her not to tell anyone and that he needs time to "get to the place that he can quit". I don't even know if that really means anything or just a whole bunch of words pushed together. She asked that I talk to him when I get into town also, that I talk to my grandparents (his parents). I wasn't brave enough to call them but I did call my aunt, she is kind of that pack leader of our family and explained the story. But my mom is afraid because he said he will leave her if she tells anyone! After 27 years of marriage, that isn't something my dad would normaly say.
The only question I have is how to bring it up? What to say? I am sure I will find the answers on this forum. There is a lot of good information here. I just wanted someone to hear how hurt I am and angry I am. I feel that is so unfair and shellfish. I am angry with myself for not being able to understand what he is going through.
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