he's made the decision to get help...now how can i help?

monsterparty · Newbie

i've come close to losing a few of my closest friends to coke addiction. i'm 19, and 4 of my friends have been in rehab for the drug in the past year. i, myself, have never used it (mostly because i've seen what it's done to people i care about). before getting help, these friends have stolen from me, and we've cut ties altogether until they got sober (i told a friend's mother that she wanted to move in with her coke dealing boyfriend, because i knew that if nobody stepped in, we'd all lose her for good...clearly, she didn't take it well at the time, but she's since thanked me for it, and we're super close again.)

my boyfriend of half a year has been using coke for the past few months.
he's used about 5 times in the past 2 months (which, i know, is not that much compared to most addicts) but he's been having the worst comedowns lately, and
i've been trying my hardest not to enable his behaviour -- i don't allow the drug in my apartment, or in my presence, i make it very clear that i think that what he's doing to himself is incredibly negative, and his use has been the source of many an argument for us. i've told him on more than 1 occasion that i think that he has/is beginning to develop a problem, that he's got so much more going for him than drugs, and that i love the time we have together when he's sober.
last saturday, he went to a party with some friends of ours, that we were both supposed to go to. i asked him if they were going to be doing coke (the people throwing the party, i mean) and when he told me that it was going to be at the party, i told him that i didn't want to go anymore. since he bought the kegs, he had to show up to collect money, but he said that he would just go for a bit and pick up the cash.
when i got a call from him at 3am, i knew that he had used, and we got into an argument about it. he showed up at my apartment after an all-nighter, and i took care of him while he came down. he told me that the only reason that he had stopped was because he was coming over to my apartment, and knows my feelings on the drug...and
once he started to return to himself, he told me that he hated what he had become, didn't want to disappoint me or himself anymore, didn't think the drug was worth screwing up our relationship over, and wanted to seek help.
i was obviously happy at his decision to stop using and get help (if a little hesitant to get my hopes up too high, in case it didn't stick and i had to step in, yet again). tonight, he went to his first CA meeting. at this point, i'm overwhelmed with pride, and i want to be the most supportive girlfriend that i can be, so i've started reading up on CA, coke addiction recovery, support groups, ect.
if anyone can think of anything else that i can do to help him through this (and show him that i am so, so proud of him for taking this big step and making positive change), it's much appreciated.
Smile

ps.
sorry this post was so long-winded! i haven't really been able to talk to anyone else about this (i don't feel like it's my place to share his situation with people who know him/us personally, you know?), so it kind of all came out in a huuuuge way!