Newbie here...sorry if posting in wrong place...

Kara · Newbie

Hi all... I guess we are all pretty much in the same boat in one way or another if we are all here,
I have been reading here on and off for a very long time,and finally took my big step and registered today.
I can be a bit shy at first, but once I feel comfortable then loosen up a bit.
I am dealing with my crack addicted husband and have alot going on at the moment...he took off with my vehicle, his family is working with a counselor on an intervention, I have filed police reports and the list goes on and on.
My time is limited today due to dealing with the bs that goes with this drama, so I can't even begin to post my story,but will do so very soon.
I read a letter that was suppose to be from and addict(if I am not mistaken)on here one day last week... can't remember alot of it, but remember that it ended with cause that's what addicts do or something along those lines.I don't even know where to begin using the search feature to find this...
Can someone please help me out?

Admin · Site Admin

Try to use search, http://www.cocainehelp.org/MDForum-search.html

pause4poetry · Moderator

Is this the post you are talking about?

Posted by Jhat111 on July 20th, 2006

What Addicts Do

My name’s __________ (Fill in the blank). I’m an addict. And this is what addicts do. You cannot, nor will not, change my behavior. You cannot make me treat you better, let alone with any respect. All I care about, all I think about, is my needs and how to go about fulfilling them. You are a tool to me, something to use. When I say I love you, I am lying through my teeth, because love is impossible for someone in active addiction. I wouldn’t be using if I loved myself, and since I don’t, I cannot love you.

My feelings are so pushed down and numbed by my drugs that I could be considered a sociopath. I have no empathy for you or anyone else. It doesn’t faze me that I hurt you, leave you hungry, lie to you, cheat on you, and steal from you.

My behavior cannot and will not change until I make a decision to stop using and then follow it up with a plan of action. And until I make that decision, I will hurt you again and again and again.

Stop being surprised. I am an addict. And that’s what addicts do.

Kara · Newbie

Thanks... that is it.... sometimes when I feel myself wavering, when I know I have to stand firm with the boundaries I have set, reading that seems to help me to stay strong....

pause4poetry · Moderator

Good, I am glad that you now have it. I am sure that you will find many more things that will hopefully help you gain a better perspective of dealing with a loved one in addiction.

Keep reading and posting, you have found a great place for support and information.

Glad your here...

Wishing you Strength and Peace,

Michelle